The news has been filled recently with the debate over gay marriage. The President has come out and admitted that he is for it. Politics aside he stated that it was his Christian convictions, at least in part, that led him to his decision. It is at this point that it becomes an issue of what the Bible teaches vs. what people think it teaches.
Marriage has been from the beginning. The Bible is a peculiar book in that if you do not believe the four words the rest of the book makes no sense. The first four words are, “In the beginning God.” So we can see what God planned from the beginning in the book of Genesis. What we find in the Bible is that there is no such thing as ‘gay marriage’, it does not exist. Let’s look at the first marriage of mankind for a moment.
First, God saw that man needed a partner:
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” -Genesis 2:18 (ESV)
So the hunt to find the perfect partner for Adam commences. All of creation is searched but there is not anything that ‘fits’ Adam. (Gen. 2:20) So God makes for Adam the perfect partner, or mate:
And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” -Genesis 2:22-23
So God made two people out of the one person. When Adam looked at Eve he saw himself, not only that he saw what was missing out of himself. So Adam and Eve together form a completion. A complete unit. Out of the one there are two. So Adam declares what will happen when the two become one.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. -Genesis 2:24
The word for ‘hold fast’ here also means ‘to cling’, or ‘adhere to’. They will form the strongest bond that two people can share. Even stronger than the bond between a parent and a child. Even stronger than the bond between a mother and her child.
What we see from Scripture is that when a male and a female join together they become one ‘flesh’ or person. This is what a marriage is a man and a woman joining together. This is exactly the way God designed it to be. There are attributes that women have that men need, and there are attributes that men have that women need. There are some needs that only a man can fulfill in a woman, and some needs that only a woman can fulfill in a man. There are spiritual needs, deep longings that can only be fulfilled by the opposite sex. Otherwise God would not have created Eve for Adam. There is one quote from the film Jerry McGuire that exemplifies this in our culture beautifully. He says to his wife, “You complete me.” It is true, a husband and wife complete each other.
This passage in Genesis does not stand alone. We have another marriage in Scripture that all marriages represent. That is the marriage of the Messiah to His people:
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church. -Ephesians 5:25,28-29 (ESV)
So we see that the Messiah loves his people as a husband loves his wife. These are connected. The church of Jesus is ‘one flesh’ with Jesus himself. He loves His people like He loves Himself. Therefore husbands should love their wives as their own bodies, take care of them, nourish them, and cherish them. This is the deeper meaning of marriage, one that cannot be changed or altered. The picture of the love between a husband and wife is the same thing as the love of Jesus towards His people.
That is why the term ‘gay marriage’ is an oxymoron. A homosexual marriage can never be a marriage in the true sense of the word, because marriage is not designed that way. We can pass as many laws as we want, and ‘re-educate’ the so-called ignorant, and call people bigots all we want, but it does not change the fact that a true marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. Not because of anything other than that is how God created us, and that is how God takes us to be His people.
A ‘gay marriage’ does not exist in the eyes of God. There is not one mean-spirited thing about that fact. It is just a fact of the Bible. In fact, one of the very foundational truths in the Bible. Just like God made Eve for Adam, He made us for Him. He decided it was not good to be alone, so He made people to ‘cling to’ Him.
So if a man ‘marries’ a man or a woman ‘marries’ a woman they are living a lifestyle that is opposed to God. They are building on a broken foundation. They are outside of the blessing of a godly marriage. It is actually a very sad state of affairs because they will never experience love as God intended. They are missing a key ingredient. The opposite sex.
So I strongly disagree with the President. To love your neighbor as yourself does not mean you condone things that will hurt them physically, emotionally, and spiritually like the practice of homosexuality. You love them enough to warn them that homosexual practices will damage them and keep them from the blessings in life that God desires for them.